tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post4741960164457318384..comments2022-03-25T07:30:46.527-07:00Comments on Provender: Red FlagsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post-17639125340202025962013-07-10T11:04:17.907-07:002013-07-10T11:04:17.907-07:00When the pastor calls himself the "CEO" ...When the pastor calls himself the "CEO" and no one will tell him what to do... becomes so apparent that he starts to intimidate, manipulate and then send accusatory emails inflicting emotional distress, psychological harm, finally compounding that with dismissal from a paid position with no thought or even consultation by the elders - where no one asks you for your side of the story... etc etc.<br />My question is this - has anyone successfully sued the "CEO" for infliction of emotional stress, defamation and harassment. If so please email me at iancwood33@gmail.com<br />Blessings and thanks for this website!<br />In Christ.<br />Ian Kim Woodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13473288543257375320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post-33982827597900785712013-03-11T14:56:13.913-07:002013-03-11T14:56:13.913-07:00Anonymous, that is no way to live. I hope you are ...Anonymous, that is no way to live. I hope you are out of that abusive place now and somewhere else that will nurture your faith. I think I know that look!Provenderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17092211918774805740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post-15435957908660993332013-03-05T12:06:52.668-08:002013-03-05T12:06:52.668-08:00All I can say is wow. I struggled to leave my chur...All I can say is wow. I struggled to leave my church. I will attend every service with fear and too much stress because my pastor shouts and his wife will give you a look that can make you commit suicide.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post-24608324609684171062012-01-20T15:36:57.962-08:002012-01-20T15:36:57.962-08:00Please help me get this blog out....this church is...Please help me get this blog out....this church is abusive. We have lost our beloved son and want word out there- there are signs- we lived them. Please read our story- offer any info you can- we have been shut out by our son.<br /><br />http://onemothersjourney7.blogspot.com/Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07765987436316571238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post-73541413353011460062011-01-25T15:38:53.806-08:002011-01-25T15:38:53.806-08:00Anonymous, your situation sounds terrible. Prayers...Anonymous, your situation sounds terrible. Prayers for you and your family. Here is a link if you haven't seen it that is excellent on the subject of pastors interfering with marriages: http://wickedshepherds.com/AWordtotheWives.htmlProvenderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17092211918774805740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post-32291877245123396162011-01-24T17:57:36.410-08:002011-01-24T17:57:36.410-08:00I was in a church that was spiritually abusive and...I was in a church that was spiritually abusive and has control over my wife. They told me I was no longer welcome,"For my spiritual protection" in the words of the pastor. Additionally, they told me I had to leave my home and family and they would tell me when I could come home and to get me to the meeting they engaged in a deception. And the story spans two years of this type of behavior. The "mens minister" invites married women to go camping to advise them on separation and divorce. I am still dealing with this situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post-26621003408495211932009-10-18T11:30:53.608-07:002009-10-18T11:30:53.608-07:00excellent post--find it all too familiar--my littl...excellent post--find it all too familiar--my little cult/organization experience we even had to sign "contracts" that we had to agree to--and if we ever left we were NOT to ever start up a ministry in so many miles of the organization--they wanted and maintained alllll the power in our small town--seems as you're (at least for me) in the abusive group-I hid/denied the red flags--but now when you are finally away--you notice what was there---and you become so much more cautious of red flags that appear later. Great post-thanks for sharing<br />October 16, 2009 4:40 PMYouWillRiseAgainhttp://youwillriseagain.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post-32021148272115746872009-10-18T11:28:59.653-07:002009-10-18T11:28:59.653-07:00Thank you for this post. God's timing is excel...Thank you for this post. God's timing is excellent. Thank you for your commitment to truth.<br />October 15, 2009 9:56 PMHillary@QuiveringDaughtershttp://quiveringdaughters.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775523880312885819.post-76796056196424787672009-10-18T11:27:20.487-07:002009-10-18T11:27:20.487-07:00This is a great post! You have described my former...This is a great post! You have described my former church perfectly. One of the things that really stood out was when you used the phrase "striving for excellence". My former pastor called it "the spirit of excellence." In his eyes everything had to be perfect. The staff members walked on pins and needles and if we ever missed one detail we were corrected harshly. It became legalism to the highest degree. <br /><br />Another thing that stood out was how you talked about living one way while he preached the opposite. I would see the pastor treat others horribly and then talk about walking in love and forgiveness. He was very critical of others and talked about people and yet he bashed "gossipers" from the pulpit. I could go on and on, but I will stop. Thanks for posting this information. I really like your blog and I hope it helps others see the truth about spiritual abuse.<br />October 15, 2009 7:47 PMSet Freehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02297157352927686694noreply@blogger.com